Leaving South Beach, I was excited of what was to come, not knowing the kind of lessons that were about to come my way. Quickly I found out that Orlando had nothing to offer except a bunch of guys who unfortunately don’t know the difference between sensual and sexual.

From day one, I had clients who would only book sessions if I would subject myself to the objectification and sexualizing my profession and think it was ok to treat me like an escort, or run of the mill hooker.

After describing to, way more people than I ever wished to, that paying for a massage was just that… paying to RECEIVE a massage. For some reason, and I’m pretty sure I know why, men do not seem to understand how to receive intimacy without the need to reciprocate by fulfilling their sexual desire. From the time that many of us were little, we were taught that it is not ok to feel, that any feeling other than joy or bliss is “wrong”. The result of having any sort of feeling makes most feel insecure or unsafe. As a man, the easiest way to feel safe again is to conquer sexually. Although only a temporary relief, most men don’t know anything more.

Orlando was this to a T. Very quickly I closed my books and just began preparing for Atlanta. The city in general just didn’t have a very good vibe. Out of all the cities I’ve been to so far, Orlando ranks down there with New Orleans with cities I am not looking forward to visiting again, unless just overnight to see the couple clients I did manage to work with that were more than I could have ever hoped for.

A couple years ago, heck maybe even as close as 6 months ago, I would have considered sacrificing my values and morals to make a buck. But, at this point in time, I have realized that who I am is not something that I can give up, not something any amount of money is worth. I did not work as hard, or as long as I have, to get to this place of self worth;  to allow someone else to disrespect me due to an imbalance within their own being that they are unwilling to look at.

Atlanta was quite the opposite experience and one I am looking forward to going back to many times again. No matter what the desire, the clients there were willing to let go, to allow the energy and the healing of the work I offer. It was a wonderful experience through and through. Not only was I able to create some amazing new relationships with new clients, I met some great people too. Definitely learned what Southern Hospitality was!

Every city, a new experience and a new lesson: some I look forward to visiting again, while others have simply become “been there done that” places.

Now on to NC, to meet up with my sister and her family…. WOOHOO!!!

Have a Great Day (or not) You Choose